If you’ve been working on an attitudinal or behavioural shift by using tools like meditation for a while you may already be experiencing increased space in your response to things that used to cause you pressure, stress or anxiety. I’ve recently remembered that these tools like meditation and physical exercise, taking up a hobby and..
Life can be a juggernaut that makes constant demands on your attention. The necessity of managing these demands requires some reflection on what you value and therefore prioritize. What really matters to you? To address this, your first need to ground yourself – to really connect with what matters. You can go as deep as..
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.” – Mark Twain. With a climate of political and economic uncertainty there appears to be a widespread feeling of fear dominating the mindset of most people. The mainstream media further fans these fears, and seek to hook people in to the drama of..
“There’s great liberation from hibernation.” If you google the definition of ‘Expectation’ this is what you will find: – A strong belief that something will happen or be the case “reality had not lived up to expectations”. – A belief that someone will or should achieve something “students had high expectations for their future“…
Self-regulation – manage your emotions (including anger) by a process of self “checking in” – giving attention to what the body is doing (e.g. the sensations, feelings etc.). Take action towards mindfulness and creating calmness. Observe any escalation of negative beliefs to act as a signal to redirect your attention to more constructive processes. ..
As someone who likes supporting others to maintain their purpose and who understands the value of identifying goals, it becomes treacherous terrain when an emotion like grief is being processed. As a coach I underestimated the expectation I placed on myself to ‘stay motivated’. A great spirit like Muhammad Ali passing, brings my attention..
The end of the financial year is arriving and for some it signifies a period of fear. Such fears may include the feeling of responsibility that is perceived in having to be accountable, or perhaps the fear of confronting hard truths that financial awareness brings. In becoming aware of what is actually happening in..
Why is it that when we are triggered by something we can allow ourselves to become so toxic in our behaviour? In this vulnerable state not only can we turn inward on ourselves with self criticism and shame but we can also hurt others in our defensive or aggressive attitudes and behaviours. What is happening..
How do we address our triggers, so as not to be overcome or dominated by them – to regain ownership from that which we have allowed to seize us? How do we go from being “trigger happy ” to just being …“happy”? Having looked at the psychobiology of triggers in part 1 of this article,..
In coaching others I often work in the realm of acceptance to identify their vision and reach their goals. I am in Shillong, a hill-station in the foothills of the Himalayas in Meghalaya, India. It’s freezing. We’ve just hauled our 23month old and 3.5yr old boys through Thailand, Nepal and now across India and they’re..