#MeToo is gaining incredible traction as a forum for women who’ve experienced abuse, assault or sexual harassment. The Harvey Weinstein scandal appears to have been the catalyst for this movement. Perhaps it is the tip of the iceberg, whereby a critical mass has been reached of realization of the scope of this insidious problem that..
Life can be a juggernaut that makes constant demands on your attention. The necessity of managing these demands requires some reflection on what you value and therefore prioritize. What really matters to you? To address this, your first need to ground yourself – to really connect with what matters. You can go as deep as..
Self-regulation – manage your emotions (including anger) by a process of self “checking in” – giving attention to what the body is doing (e.g. the sensations, feelings etc.). Take action towards mindfulness and creating calmness. Observe any escalation of negative beliefs to act as a signal to redirect your attention to more constructive processes. ..
“First we need to realise the loss of Self. Then we need to act to reclaim it. This is the act of Selffulness. Realisation comes from inspiration, which is the most powerful motivation for change. To be inspired is alchemy, a process whereby a catalyst activates and awakens that which is dormant and turns it..
Is it ‘pure chemistry’ that we find someone attractive? Does it come down to the physicality of why opposites attract? Why is it that in so many intimate relationships you see the classic case of two opposite personalities being drawn together? Perhaps it comes down to the psychology of relating. When we are in the..
In the interactions with our partners we tend to form relationship dynamics that we repeatedly return to in the face of similar circumstances. These relationship dynamics gets reinforced with each situation that connects the last, forming a network of potential triggers for this to be played out. We begin to build an accumulation of these..
In the mechanics of ‘nature’ it is co-operation that allows a process of working or acting together for the common/mutual benefit, as opposed to working in competition for selfish benefit. There is complete harmony in cooperation. The alternative to cooperation, in terms of disharmony of relating, is a relationship that suffers from ‘co-dependency’. We firstly..
It often appears that we are waiting for good things to happen to us, that we feel we have been dealt a bad hand in certain aspects of our life. In fact, we often wait for something or someone to come and rescue us, or to be given permission to have what it is we..
In my practice vulnerable expression is at the core of people’s well bring. It’s important to acknowledge ones vulnerability before finding the courage to move through it and claim ones power. Vulnerability can often be mistaken for weakness, especially in a power driven society. This misinterpretation of weakness is in fact a fallacy, given in..
In some instances to find the courage to address core issues and come into our power, we need to go through rites of passage, … a coming of age. In the book “Iron John”, by Robert Bly, the central character is a young boy who goes out in to the dark swamp and comes across..