Self-regulation – manage your emotions (including anger) by a process of self “checking in” – giving attention to what the body is doing (e.g. the sensations, feelings etc.). Take action towards mindfulness and creating calmness. Observe any escalation of negative beliefs to act as a signal to redirect your attention to more constructive processes. ..
As someone who likes supporting others to maintain their purpose and who understands the value of identifying goals, it becomes treacherous terrain when an emotion like grief is being processed. As a coach I underestimated the expectation I placed on myself to ‘stay motivated’. A great spirit like Muhammad Ali passing, brings my attention..
The end of the financial year is arriving and for some it signifies a period of fear. Such fears may include the feeling of responsibility that is perceived in having to be accountable, or perhaps the fear of confronting hard truths that financial awareness brings. In becoming aware of what is actually happening in..
Why is it that when we are triggered by something we can allow ourselves to become so toxic in our behaviour? In this vulnerable state not only can we turn inward on ourselves with self criticism and shame but we can also hurt others in our defensive or aggressive attitudes and behaviours. What is happening..
How do we address our triggers, so as not to be overcome or dominated by them – to regain ownership from that which we have allowed to seize us? How do we go from being “trigger happy ” to just being …“happy”? Having looked at the psychobiology of triggers in part 1 of this article,..
In coaching others I often work in the realm of acceptance to identify their vision and reach their goals. I am in Shillong, a hill-station in the foothills of the Himalayas in Meghalaya, India. It’s freezing. We’ve just hauled our 23month old and 3.5yr old boys through Thailand, Nepal and now across India and they’re..
On the 26th December 2004 following a night receiving the most loving and honouring marriage proposal, I was on the road with Dave to the Woodford festival when we turned on the radio and began to hear of the numbers in droves of deaths from the Tsunami. I had never felt so blessed or such..
– The Darkside of the Honeymoon In this next part of our honeymoon we venture into Kathmandu. Staying with the theme of ‘love and other catastrophes’ we journey from the tsunami affected area of Thailand to the recent earthquake affected area of Nepal. It was while dancing in a club in Kathmandu, listening to a..
In this next part of our honeymoon we venture into India and find some valuable experiences with friends and family. Coming into the Christmas period and being present in India holds some interesting themes. Given I proposed to Monique on xmas eve eleven years ago, and we spent our first honeymoon in India at that..