As children, when our basic needs of love and connectedness are met there is great beauty and innocence in play. There is a pure outlet of energy that is unhampered by societal stigmas and rules. With loving guidance and boundaries from a child’s parents or guardians in conjunction with the child’s own developmental leaps and..
This article explores the value of vulnerability and how this can be an agent for change.
Is it ‘pure chemistry’ that we find someone attractive? Does it come down to the physicality of why opposites attract? Why is it that in so many intimate relationships you see the classic case of two opposite personalities being drawn together? Perhaps it comes down to the psychology of relating. When we are in the..
In the interactions with our partners we tend to form relationship dynamics that we repeatedly return to in the face of similar circumstances. These relationship dynamics gets reinforced with each situation that connects the last, forming a network of potential triggers for this to be played out. We begin to build an accumulation of these..
In the mechanics of ‘nature’ it is co-operation that allows a process of working or acting together for the common/mutual benefit, as opposed to working in competition for selfish benefit. There is complete harmony in cooperation. The alternative to cooperation, in terms of disharmony of relating, is a relationship that suffers from ‘co-dependency’. We firstly..
It often appears that we are waiting for good things to happen to us, that we feel we have been dealt a bad hand in certain aspects of our life. In fact, we often wait for something or someone to come and rescue us, or to be given permission to have what it is we..
In my practice vulnerable expression is at the core of people’s well bring. It’s important to acknowledge ones vulnerability before finding the courage to move through it and claim ones power. Vulnerability can often be mistaken for weakness, especially in a power driven society. This misinterpretation of weakness is in fact a fallacy, given in..
In some instances to find the courage to address core issues and come into our power, we need to go through rites of passage, … a coming of age. In the book “Iron John”, by Robert Bly, the central character is a young boy who goes out in to the dark swamp and comes across..
I sat down last night with three other 40+ women each of us who became mothers in our mid-late 30s and once again we went into battle with that anti-heroine who’s well-worn tirade was convincing us we were the unproductive, losers in humanity because we weren’t wearing the supermom mantle with aplomb. The notion of..