The Nature of Change – Vulnerability (Part 3 of 3)
This article explores the value of vulnerability and how this can be an agent for change.
As a psychologist and counsellor I see my role as a guide and motivator to activate my client’s full potential. If I’m not doing the work myself then I’m not modelling or being an effective guide to support your growth. So, I’m constantly bringing my attention to these principals and being in the process of challenging my resistance to change and being in the moment that presents itself with complete opportunity. I draw on the guides of others and the resources that community brings, as I would advocate for others seeking growth. There is a wealth of resources on offer, when an abundant and open mind meets a fellow traveler of change. Having travelled extensively, I have noticed the various cultural nuances when it comes to exercising an abundant and open mind. In some cultures it is seen as arrogant to describe or display ones owns merits, while others openly encourage such behaviour. There are also variances in how ones vulnerabilities are also portrayed. To some cultures it is a sign of weakness to openly reveal your vulnerabilities, while others it is a mark of great courage and humility to share your internal life challenges. The key to connecting and expressing both your vulnerabilities and your strengths is to do so within the context of a supportive and embracing environment. Over time, the more individuals take such valued risks by connecting with their community in such a way, the greater acceptance and positive regard that community will have for these attributes of communicativeness. A good psychologist or counsellor provides just such a supportive environment that nurtures this expression, in a safe and confidential manner.
Author: David Kalmar
Psychologist
A good video to watch on this is topic is: Ted Talks – Vulnerability – Brene Brown